Transform your love life, you won’t regret it

November 5, 2009 by ImanK

Have you ever been in a room full of people that can’t speak your language? I’ve had my share. Usually, we end up making gestures, hand signals, using cut-up words to get our point across. Ten minutes of that and it’s not fun any more, trust me.

Well, the same goes for love. Have you ever tried showing love to your spouse, kids or parents and they didn’t care? Like giving them a gift for Eid and they put it aside and never used it? Or you just wish that they would give you a compliment that you can cherish, but they never did?

That just means they don’t speak your primary love language. So, I finally bought the book for like $3 at Amazon.com. (Ok, it was a great deal I got for a used book.) I’ve been reading bits of it for years now but the concept is so good and simple that I just had to read the entire book. According to Gary Chapman, the author of The Five Love Languages, there are five ways people express love:

Words of affirmation
Quality time
Receiving gifts
Acts of service
Physical touch

We all have one that is dominant and that we use to show love to others. The problem comes when you are with someone you love but he/she speaks a different love language. If you speak quality time but your husband speaks acts of service, you’ll be nagging him to take you out to dinner while he is expecting to come home to a clean house, clean kids and dinner ready. To compound the problem, he wants to show you love but the only way he knows how is through his own language (acts of service), then before he comes home he changes the oil in the car and washes it. And you want to show love through your own language (quality time), so you don’t cook dinner that night and send the kids to your mom’s so that you both can go out for dinner. What do you think will happen when he gets home? Disaster? Probably.

Both showed love but both didn’t receive it.

Want to experience love with your loved ones? Follow these steps: